But moving on takes a whole new significance when just a few days later, Harris also posted an Instagram, “My heart is full of gratitude. I wish you could see all the messages people sent me after the announcement of my divorce. They are expressions of love though they are saddened or even strongly disapprove of the decision.” He continues, “I am learning that no group has the market cornered on grace. This week I’ve received grace from Christians, atheists, evangelicals, exvangelicals, straight people, LGBTQ people, and everyone in-between. Of course there have also been strong words of rebuke from religious people. While not always pleasant, I know they are seeking to love me. (There have also been spiteful, hateful comments that angered and hurt me.”
The next statement is most important: “The information that was left out of our announcement is that I have undergone a massive shift in regard to my faith in Jesus. The popular phrase for this is ‘deconstruction,’ the biblical phrase is ‘falling away.’ By all the measurements that I have for defining a Christian, I am not a Christian. Many people tell me that there is a different way to practice faith and I want to remain open to this, but I’m not there now.”
The next paragraph was also very important: “Martin Luther said that the entire life of believers should be repentance. There’s beauty in that sentiment regardless of your view of God. I’ve lived in repentance for the past several years—repenting of my self-righteousness, my fear-based approach to life, the teaching of my books, my views of women in the church, and my approach to parenting to name a few. But I specifically want to add to this list now: to the LGBTQ+ community, I want to say that I am sorry for the views that I taught in my books and as a pastor regarding sexuality. I regret standing against marriage equality, for not affirming you and your place in the church, and for any ways that my writing and speaking contributed to a culture of exclusion and bigotry. I hope you can forgive me.”
Those were the most important sections of the posting, and the most important line is where he said that he had undergone a massive shift in regard to his faith in Christ. He said, again, “The popular phrase for this is ‘deconstruction,’ the biblical phrase is ‘falling away.’ By all the measurements that I have for defining a Christian, I am not a Christian.” Those are absolutely stunning words. They would be stunning and incredibly troubling coming from anyone, but from the former pastor of a megachurch and from someone who has had a very significant influence in the evangelical world, this is one of those milestone events. It also requires a good deal of thinking and very honest reflection on the part of American evangelicals.
There had been troubling signs for some time indicating that Joshua Harris was in a very significant worldview in spiritual transition.
Several people have obviously wondered, “How did this come out of the blue?” But it didn’t really come out of the blue. There had been troubling signs for some time indicating that Joshua Harris was in a very significant worldview in spiritual transition.
This was made also very clear in an interview that was made with the liberal magazine Sojourners. The interviewer was Sandi Villarreal, and this was also published at Sojourners just about the time that he made the announcement of the divorce from his wife. It was before his announcement that he was also divorcing himself from the Christian faith. In this interview, very interestingly, Joshua Harris indicates the extent to which he has separated, not just from the argument of I Kissed Dating Goodbye, but also from the superstructure of Biblical Christianity and most particularly, its revealed sexual ethic.
He raised questions about what he called the purity culture, of which he had been very much a part. He also raised questions about complementarianism, but these were basically in order to repudiate them. What wasn’t at all clear and still isn’t clear is exactly what would replace his teachings of the past. In the interview, one of the most interesting and important moments comes when Villarreal says, “You say in the documentary that there are a lot of people who want you to throw out everything that was kind of the basis for your book. But I’m curious when you say ‘everything,’ do you mean your belief in Christianity as a whole or about premarital sex in general? I’m curious what you include in that.”
Harris responded, “I think that there’s a push by some people to say being sex positive means—the kind of the historical sexual ethic related to sex outside of marriage, related to homosexuality, is basically laid aside, and embracing a healthy view of sex means just accepting all that as fine within the Christian tradition. … I do think though that, for me, in that change of interpretation of such a fundamental level when it comes to sexuality, it’s just hard for me to. … In a way it’s almost easier for me to contemplate throwing out all of Christianity than it is to keeping Christianity and adapting it in these different ways.”
That’s truly stunning. It’s incredibly revealing. In this interview that came before his announcement of his departure from Christianity, Harris said that when he came to rethink the Biblical sexual ethic of historic Christianity, he said he understood then, and this is crucial for us to understand, that at that point it was easier for him to contemplate throwing out all of Christianity than transforming Christianity or reformulating it in order to develop a new sexual ethic.
There’s a basic honesty there we need to recognize. In his statement that he made in the Sojourners interview and in the lengthy statement he made announcing the fact that he was departing from Christianity, one of the things that does become clear is that Joshua Harris understands that there are two absolutely opposed worldviews and they are basically not reconcilable. There’s no reconciliation possible between the Biblical worldview and the modern secular worldview.
Can one be a Christian and then at some point not be a Christian?
He understands that there is no halfway house, and in that sense, it’s intellectually honest of him to understand that theological liberalism, which seeks to maintain some claim upon Christianity while repudiating its Biblical truth claims, that that’s unsustainable. There’s intellectual honesty in that. But there’s incredible spiritual and theological tragedy, of course, in the announcement that anyone has departed from the Christian faith, and that raises basic theological issues. Can one be a Christian and then at some point not be a Christian?
Can one lose their faith? Can one ultimately fall away if one was genuinely regenerate? The answer is no. The Bible is very clear about that. Once one has been regenerated by the power of Christ, once one has become a genuine Christian and been united to Christ, nothing can separate us from Christ, not even our own sin. The historic Protestant confessions make very clear the Biblical truth, that even though after conversion and coming to faith in Christ, after regeneration, one may sin, indeed will sin, and may even grievously injure the church, it is impossible for one who has been truly regenerated to then fall back away from Christ and to be severed from Him.
There may be even some who sin by repudiating Christianity, but if they ever were genuinely Christian, they will return by repentance at some point, and that is a gospel promise. If persons do continue in their repudiation of Christianity, then we have to remember the text 1 John 2:19, where we are told that, “They went out from us, because they were not of us,” which is to say they never were truly Christians. They were pretend believers.
Jesus also speaks to this in Matthew 13 in the parable of the four soils. There are those who show signs of life, but they eventually go away. And Jesus makes very clear they never were true Christians, and yet you also have to understand that means there could even be some who had risen to influence in the church—the New Testament is clear about this—who would later fall away, but they went out from us because they were not of us.
Evangelicals should ponder what this tragic headline news tells us about our susceptibility to a consumer culture and to a celebrity culture. That’s always a danger. It’s impossible to have some level of influence without some level of celebrity, but we must test everything by the Scriptures. And we also have to understand as the early church had to come to know, that there are some who appear to be believers and even have influence, even pastors, but eventually fall away. That has to be acknowledged.
There’s something else of extreme importance in this case, and I say this as president of a theological seminary and a Christian college, but this is just emphatically important. There has to be theological depth. The only way that we’re going to be able to sustain a Biblical sexual ethic and the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ, is by serious Biblical content, serious Biblical knowledge, deep theology, apologetics, Biblical theology, a deep understanding and celebration of and embrace of the gospel of Jesus Christ, understanding that gospel, the true gospel, the Biblical gospel, the gospel of Jesus Christ against all superficial pretenders.
And against false theologies, including any form of legalism that can creep in. The purity culture that Joshua Harris says he now rejects is something we have to look at very closely as evangelicals, understanding that there has been a certain legalistic bent in that purity culture among some who’ve made something of a religion of sorts out of I Kissed Dating Goodbye or any form of other legalism, and they have sometimes also basically subverted the gospel by elevating that kind of legalistic ethic, but at the same time, the Bible upholds a purity ethic.
The Bible reveals God’s intention for us in our gender, in our sexuality, in marriage, and in all sexual expression, it’s the Bible that also holds up the fact that the only legitimate sexual expression is within marriage as the holy covenant of a man and a woman before God. But it is also true that we have to avoid turning this into what at least one critic has called “a sexual prosperity gospel.”
We have to be very, very careful at this evangelical moment that the recognition of the danger of legalism does not turn into some form of antinomianism.
But we have to be very, very careful at this evangelical moment that the recognition of the danger of legalism does not turn into some form of antinomianism. The fact is that the original purity culture is found within the gospel itself. It’s found within the Scriptures, within God’s revealed Word, but it doesn’t indicate that we are born pure. To the contrary, it indicates that we are born sinners and the answer to our sin is not legalism, but rather it is the gospel of Jesus Christ.
But once we have come to know Christ as Savior, then we are called to obey all that He has commanded, and Christ has commanded, even as He affirmed what God’s intention was from the beginning, that sexual expression be limited to the covenant union of a man and a woman. We also have to remember that even though the world hates that restriction, it is not only God’s revealed Word, it is also God’s good will. It is His plan for human happiness, human wholeness, human flourishing.
The headlines concerning Joshua Harris and, for that matter, Joshua and Shannon Harris, are deeply humbling to American evangelicalism. They should be very sobering. They should make us pray for the Harrises and for our churches. They should lead us to a deeper understanding of the gospel and exultation of the gospel of Christ and, simultaneously, an introspection concerning our Biblical fidelity and the depth of our commitment to Christ and to Biblical Christianity. But this heartbreaking headline also reminds us that we can place our trust in no sinful human being, but in Christ alone, the one who alone is worthy of our trust.
From a transcript of the Aug. 1 episode of Albert Mohler’s podcast The Briefing. © 2019 by The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. All rights reserved. Used with permission.