A black screen wakes up to white letters:

“In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him. —A.E. Wiggin”

As Captain Phillips (Tom Hanks) boards his massive cargo liner stacked with Maersk freight and climbs to his cabin, he halfheartedly checks several gate locks. Some gates are open, and even when closed, they rattle like tinny high-school lockers. With a recent piracy warning for the waters off Somalia he’s about to travel, Cap warns his first mate: The gates must stay locked at all times. That’s just one of several measures—including testing water hoses and running an emergency drill—Cap takes to ensure the safety of his vessel.

This article is the 41st in a series profiling couples who have been married for at least 35 years. As sociologist Mark Regnerus writes, “Young adults want to know that it’s possible for two fellow believers to stay happy together for a lifetime, and they need to hear how the generations preceding them did it.” It is also important to see that marriages are not always happy all the time, but commitment is crucial.